Living Room Conversations · Australia · Pilot 1.0

What if talking to someone you disagree with actually changed things?

Living Room Conversations brings people from opposite ends of the political spectrum together—not to debate, not to convince. Just to talk. Led by citizen facilitators—everyday people, not professionals. Free for everyone.

The Problem

We're stuck in echo chambers—and the gap keeps widening.

There's an app for meeting friends, for dating, even for finding dinner companions. But nothing helps us talk to people we actually disagree with.

Our politics are more polarised than ever. We've sorted ourselves into communities of like-minded people and lost the habit—and the skill—of listening across difference.

This isn't just frustrating. It's making collective decision-making nearly impossible at the exact moment communities need it most.

Political polarisation is getting worse in Australia and globally—across almost every measure

Echo
chambers

Social media algorithms serve us content that confirms what we already think, reinforcing division

The Solution

90 minutes that can change how you see the world.

8–10 people from genuinely different political backgrounds. One citizen facilitator—a neighbour, not a professional. A structured conversation built to find common ground—not force it.

We meet in community centres and cafés, not lecture halls. Our facilitators are neighbours who care about their communities, not professional mediators with agendas. And every resource we use is free.

What this is not

A debate where someone wins
A town hall where people give speeches
Another think tank or academic project
A session run by professional mediators

What it is

Real people, having a real conversation
Guided by a neighbour, not a professional
Structured to surface common ground
Free. Open source. Yours to run.
How It Works

Three steps. 90 minutes. Something shifts.

1

Find or become a citizen facilitator

Facilitators are everyday people—neighbours who care about their community, not experts with opinions to push. A run sheet, ground rules, and support materials guide the session. No professional training required.

2

Bring together 8–10 people from different sides

Deliberately cross-partisan. Not a random mix—genuine diversity of political perspective. Held in community centres, cafés, or someone's living room.

3

Follow the 90-minute structured format

Personal stories first. Finding common ground second. Actions and next steps last. Designed around the principles of deliberative democracy.

The 90-minute structure

Each phase has a clear purpose. The facilitator follows the run sheet—timing, questions, and facilitator notes included.

0:00

Opening & Relationship Building (15 min)

Welcome, introductions, housekeeping. Creating a safe, warm space before any difficult conversation begins.

0:15

Ground Rules & Understanding Purpose (15 min)

Shared commitments made to each other—not rules imposed from above. Everyone agrees before the dialogue begins.

0:30

Dialogue Phase 1: Personal Stories & Perspectives (25 min)

Everyone shares a personal experience that shaped how they see the topic. This is where empathy gets built. Small groups deepen the conversation.

0:55

Dialogue Phase 2: Finding Common Ground (20 min)

Moving from positions to interests. Identifying shared values, concerns, and hopes. Exploring solutions together.

1:15

Action & Next Steps (10 min)

What one action will each person take? Would anyone like to continue these conversations—or become a facilitator themselves?

1:25

Closing & Gratitude (5 min)

A final reflection round. Ending on a positive, hopeful note that honours what just happened in the room.

The 10 ground rules

Shared at the start of every session. Commitments made to each other, not rules imposed from above.

Listen to understand, not to respondWe're here to learn from each other, not to prepare our rebuttal.
Speak from your own experienceUse 'I' statements. Share your story, not generalisations about groups.
Respect different perspectivesWe won't all agree, and that's okay. Disagreement is not disrespect.
One person speaks at a timeNo interruptions. Let people finish their thoughts.
Confidentiality: stories stay, names don'tYou can share what you learned, but don't attribute comments to specific people.
Be curious, not judgmentalAsk questions to understand, not to trap or 'gotcha.'
It's okay to feel uncomfortableGrowth happens at the edge of our comfort zone. Lean in with curiosity.
Step up, step backIf you talk a lot, make space. If you tend to be quiet, challenge yourself.
Assume good intentWe're all here because we care. We may stumble with words—extend grace.
Take care of yourselfIt's okay to pass on a question. It's okay to take a break.
Open Source · CC0 Licence

Built in Australia.
Built to be copied.

Everything we've made—the run sheet, the training guide, the conversation agreement, this website—is released under CC0. No permission needed. No attribution required. Just take it and run with it.

This is the Australian instance. If you want to run this in your country, fork the GitHub repository and make it yours. Adapt for your context, your language, your community.

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Everything is a document

Run sheets, training guides, conversation agreements—all in Markdown, all in Git, all improvable.

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Fork the whole model

Don't just copy a PDF. Fork the repository and adapt the methodology for your context.

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Contribute improvements back

Found a better way to handle a tough moment in a session? Submit a pull request.

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Your country, your instance

Run your own version for your own community. Link back to us if you want to. Or don't.

# Copy the whole model in 60 seconds
git clone https://github.com/cclambie/DCAF
cd DCAF
# Adapt for your country. Run a conversation.
The Community

Citizen facilitators across Australia

Join the directory to connect with other facilitators, find people near you, or let communities know you're available to run or host a conversation.

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Facilitator · Trainer
Craig L.
📍 Brisbane, QLD
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Ready to have a different kind of conversation?

You don't need a PhD in political science. You just need to believe that conversation is still possible.